Intentional Friendship with Erin Falconer

Friends are not just nice to have; they make us mentally and physiologically healthy, and they add contentment, meaning and joy to our lives. But not all friendships are created equally. In her new book, How to Break Up with Your Friends: Finding Meaning, Connection, and Boundaries in Modern Friendships, author Erin Falconer invites us to take stock of the friendships in our lives, not only to see which friendships may not be serving us but to also see ways to deeply commit to those that are. Erin’s approach is all about being intentional about the friendships we choose to nurture and the ones we deliberately allow to change or end.

In this conversation we discuss:

  • The importance of friendship in our lives;
  • Ways to audit our own values and priorities and seeing them alongside our friendships;
  • Clarifying our needs and expectations in each of our friendships;
  • The outer, middle and inner rings of friendship;
  • Why ghosting is such a bad idea;
  • Re-evaluating friendships consciously and intentionally ending them or re-committing to them.

You can listen to our conversation wherever you stream podcasts (Apple, Spotify, iHeart Radio) or listen here:



Erin Falconer is the editor in chief and co-owner of Pick the Brain — one of the most popular and trusted self-improvement communities on the web — and co-host of the Pick the Brain Podcast. Pick the Brain has been named in over 100 “Best of the Web” lists, and Refinery29 named Erin one of the Top 10 Women Changing the Digital Landscape for Good. Erin is also the co-founder of LEAFtv, a video lifestyle brand for millennials, and is the author of How to Break Up with Your Friends: Finding Meaning, Connection, and Boundaries in Modern Friendships and How to Get Sh*t Done, a productivity book for women. She has had a varied career that includes screenwriter stand-up comedian, political consultant, and is now proudly, heavily invested in the online blogging world. To learn more, visit erinfalconer.com.



Kristen Manieri is certified as both a habits coach and a mindfulness teacher. Her book, Better Daily Mindfulness Habits: Simple Changes with Lifelong Impact, was released summer 2021. She specializes in: stress reduction, energy management, mindset, resilience, habit formation, rest rituals, and self-care. As the host of the weekly 60 Mindful Minutes podcast, an Apple top 100 social science podcast, Kristen has interviewed over 100 authors and thought leaders about what it means to live a more conscious, connected, intentional and joyful life. Learn more at kristenmanieri.com/work-with-me.

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