If you’re a regular listener of the 60 Mindful Minutes podcast, you’ve probably noticed that one of my favorite topics is parenting, and more specifically, how we can learn to parent with more intention. When it comes to parenting, we can totally wing it; many of us do. A lot of great kids have been raised in great homes without their parents reading a single book about parenting. But for those of us who feel a little out of our depth at times, and I can certainly throw my hand up here, I’m thankful that there are a ton of books, resources and thought leaders who can give us insight into what it means and what it looks like to parent with intention.
This week, I had the great pleasure of reconnecting with an old friend, Kim Ades, who is currently doing a deep dive into the world of understanding our role as parents and how we can set our kids up for success.
Kim is the President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching and JournalEngine Software, and has 15 years of experience coaching many of North America’s most respected leaders. She’s an author, speaker, entrepreneur, coach, and mom of five. A common pattern that she’s begun to notice in her coaching practice is how often leaders struggle with parenting. From there she began to connect the dots between great leadership and great parenting.
She joined me to discuss her philosophies and findings on parenting, as well as journaling, a topic she is hugely passionate about.
- “Your thinking impacts your outcomes.” When we can learn to frame setbacks and disappointment as opportunities to get better, we strengthen our capacity for emotional resilience and become better at bouncing back from adversity.
- Journaling can become a real asset if our goal is to become a more resilient and grounded person. It creates distance and objectivity, Writing allows for clarity, it helps us make sense of our experiences and feelings, and it offers a place to discharge.
- 90% of parenting is self-management. To allow our kids to experience failure and disappointment, without jumping in to fix everything and make it all okay, is one of the greatest gifts we can give them.
- Get curious about what messages we may be inadvertently sending our kids. For example, when we constantly jump in to remind them of their homework, we might be sending the message that we don’t think they are capable of taking responsibility for it. And what that could produce is a kid who takes no responsibility for their homework… which is the opposite of what we want.
- Consider the benefit of building a relationship with your kids that has them want to be honest with you and want to seek out your counsel. If the foundation of your relationship is discipline and control, it’s likely you’ll create more distance than connection.
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If you’d like to learn more about Kim and the coaching and journaling support she provides, head over to www.frameofmindcoaching.com.
Until next time,